I wonder why we get so afraid of saying yes to our kids. Perhaps we think they will get spoilt if we respond to their requests in a positive way too often. Perhaps they won’t appreciate the special things of life. We’d better ration them out.
Every evening for the last couple of weeks, my youngest daughter Gemma-Rose has asked if she can play a computer game after dinner.
“Do you think I should let you rot your brain with more computer games?” I ask.
“Oh yes!” she grins.
Of course, I always say yes. I don’t really know why Gemma-Rose bothers asking me. “Why do you ask me when you already know my answer?” I say, and she replies, “It’s the polite thing to do.”
So Gemma-Rose plays computer games after dinner. One day she might decide to do something else. And even if she doesn’t, her brain isn’t in any danger. That’s just our joke. She knows I’ll say yes when other people might count the number of computer hours consumed and then say no.
So I say yes. I say it a lot. But I’m also saying no. But not to my kids. I’m saying it to other people.
Sometimes we put other people’s expectations ahead of the needs of our family. Often it happens because we don’t want to offend people. How do we say no politely? Often, we cave in and say yes and then we have to deal with the consequences.
In this week’s podcast, I talk about saying no.
Also in episode 89, I talk about:
- Adding joy to a powerless afternoon
- Why sometimes it’s good to leave our cameras at home when we go out
- Social media again
- Deciding whether our work is good or not
- Allergic cats and daughters
- A delicious gluten-free, sugar-free and dairy-free chocolate tart
- Our unique back-to-school supplies
- Buying what our kids need to further their passions
- Unschoolers and planning
- Listening to Jane Austen
- Redwork embroidery
I Quit Sugar website
Chocolate Tart (We don’t add rosewater in our version.) There are other variations of this tart on the website.
MaskdJ: art tutorial Youtube channel
Sew Easy: blog post
Secret Garden Hummingbirds – Project Index
The Hollow Crown DVD
Book by Cal Newport: Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World
Images: I spoke about an unexpected rainy day picnic in this week’s episode. I didn’t have a camera with me so I couldn’t take any photos. These images are of another rainy day picnic we went on a few weeks ago. My son Callum was home for a few days so we went on an outing and didn’t worry about the wet conditions.
Do you ever have rainy day picnics? Do you enjoy embroidery? And do you have any family food allergies? If you have any favourite dairy-free websites you like to visit, please share!