I’ve been thinking about rules and principles of living…
families have many rules by which their children must live, such as…
they ensure a child knows what is right, and avoids what is wrong, and so he
will act appropriately. If the rules are
broken, then the child will have to face the consequences, which might include punishment.
they teach children how to avoid punishment? Could it be that the motivation to
behave a certain way is coming from outside a child, and not from within? Maybe we impose rules on our children because we don’t trust our children to behave in a way we feel is appropriate,
without us controlling their actions. Perhaps we think rules are the only way. But…
of rules? Parents could decide that the principles of kindness, safety,
consideration, honesty, respect… are important. If a child chooses to be
kind then she will not name call or hit a sibling or tease mercilessly or
ignore someone in need. If a child is considerate, he will not play loud music
late at night when others are trying to sleep or leave a mess for someone else
to clean up or arrive late without a valid reason. With principles, rules are
or “Show love towards your siblings,” or “Be forgiving.” Children need to see me doing all these things.
children to adopt. Then I listened carefully to myself:
have taken more care.”
wrong with it.”
and children don’t listen. Or do they? I think they listen very carefully to us
and adopt our standards, whether they are good or bad.
towards others, they will adopt our principles. Could it be that easy? Or is
there something more? These are just musings. I’d love to hear your ideas.
And if it is all about the example we give to
our children, is that really as easy as it sounds? Actually I think it can be very difficult
indeed. But still I try. It’s important. It’s the better thing to do.