My Unschooling Book Series (18)
Several months ago, I deleted my Facebook account despite Facebook warning me not to. I’d miss it, I was told. How was I going to keep up with all the important people in my life without it? Social media is essential in today’s world, you know. But I ignored this advice and went ahead and hit ‘delete’.
So what’s life like after Facebook? Have I lost contact with all the important people in my life? No. Now that I’m no longer on social media, I have more time to spend with them. I can look them in the eye and enjoy them fully without thinking, “I wonder what’s happening on Facebook.”
To be honest, I feel very relieved I’m no longer on Facebook. I used to feel guilty because I couldn’t keep up with the hundreds of conversations in my feed. Now I don’t have to worry about not being a good Facebook friend. (I know lots of people aren’t concerned about this. They accept Facebook friends aren’t usually real friends, but somehow I couldn’t do that.) No Facebook doesn’t mean I’ve lost all my friends. There are other ways of staying in touch.
Leaving Facebook means that for the first time in ages, my head isn’t full of digital noise. I no longer have to deal with all that information that used to bombard me every time I signed into my account. All that stuff I didn’t need to know about. There’s space for my own thoughts. And because I’m not being constantly distracted by other things, I’m doing some proper deep work instead of just skimming the surface dealing with maintenance and keeping-up-stuff.
Deep work? You might know that I’m working on my unschooling book. And I’m making some progress (at long last). But it’s not all good news. I’ve discovered a problem. The first draft manuscript is going to need much more editing than I first thought.
I wrote the first draft of my book, a few months ago, in odd moments snatched here and there. I wrote it with half my mind on other things. While I was writing, I was also thinking such things as “What shall I post on my Facebook page today?” I wasn’t fully focused on the job at hand.
After I’d written the first draft, I didn’t immediately move on to the editing stage. These thoughts crept into my head: “Look, writing a book is hard. It’s going to take a long time to edit the draft so it’s worth publishing. Perhaps I shouldn’t bother. Instead, just concentrate on Facebook. That’s where all your readers are anyway. Just chat on Facebook and post a few links to your blog posts. A book isn’t necessary.”
But then I left Facebook. And now I’m thinking maybe I should finish my unschooling book after all. But, as I said, I wasn’t fully concentrating when I wrote my first draft manuscript. What I ended up with is okay, but it could be better. I know this because since I’ve been working on it without being distracted by social media, I’ve had lots of new thoughts. I now want to expand sections that I’ve already written. I want to add some new topics to the book as well.
So instead of just playing around with the wording of my draft, I’m doing some major writing and rewriting. This is proving to be hard work. I could be tempted to give up once again: “It’ll take forever to write what I want to say properly. I won’t finish the book in a matter of a few weeks (as I’d hoped.)”
But I’m going to ignore that voice. You see, even though my book is turning into a long-term project, I feel excited. I’m working hard on something that’s important to me. I know I’m going to feel very satisfied when I’ve finished.
And maybe the book I end up with will be much better than the one I would have published if I’d stayed on Facebook.
So what’s life like after Facebook? It’s good.
I’m still podcasting while I’m writing this unschooling book series. Here’s this week’s episode!
This week, I’m sharing and discussing the story Independent Learners, Toast and Heavy Washing Baskets.
Leonie’s blog: Living Without School
Image: The end of Facebook was the beginning of something much better!
Has anyone else left Facebook? Or maybe you’re thinking about doing this? I’d love to hear your stories!