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How to Respond to ‘Unlovable’ Kids and Cats

How to Respond to ‘Unlovable’ Kids and Cats
Poppy died, and I cried despite not liking the cat. Poppy was a grumpy animal. She was messy and unkempt, preferring not to groom herself. An unpleasant odour followed her wherever she went. We bathed the cat, clipped her long fur, and sprinkled deodoriser all ...

Parenting: Doing Our Inadequate Best

Parenting: Doing Our Inadequate Best
Do you ever look back - a few years, months or even days - at your younger self and wish you could have done better? Perhaps you remember dragon parent days when you failed to be gentle. Could you have said things you now regret? ...

Santa, Books, and Expectations

<strong>Santa</strong>, Books, <em>and</em> Expectations
Desires and Expectations Are desires good? What about expectations? Are these about control? Can our expectations lead to disappointment and spoil our family celebrations? Should we burden our kids with our expectations? Do our worries and concerns affect our kids’ confidence? Should the only expectation ...

Unschooling: Doing What Is Right

Unschooling: Doing What Is <b>Right</b>
Unschooling is the right thing to do. That’s a bold claim that you might challenge if your ideas about what’s right are different from mine. What if my right is your wrong? Is that the end of the conversation? Or could we agree that we ...

Tough or Unconditional Love? Parent or Friend?

Tough or <em>Unconditional Love</em>? Parent or Friend?
Should we be firm with our kids, demanding they obey us, even if this causes conflict and unhappiness? Perhaps it’s our duty to remember who’s the parent and who’s the child and not be tempted to act as friends to our children. Is the tough ...

Preventing Childhood Trauma with Unconditional Love

Preventing Childhood Trauma with <b>Unconditional Love</b>
Childhood trauma can follow us into adulthood, affecting what we do, how we feel about ourselves and how we relate to others. We can trace many of our adult problems back to something that happened as we were growing up. If we understand this, we’ll ...

Who Should Be Responsible for a Child’s Education, the Parent or the Child?

<em>Who Should Be Responsible</em> for a Child’s Education, the Parent or the Child?
Who should be responsible for a child's education, the parent or the child? Is learning an active activity that needs the learner’s cooperation? Is it impossible to force knowledge into a child without resorting to teaching methods that ultimately destroy their natural love of learning? ...

What Do Unschoolers Do Each Day?

What Do Unschoolers Do Each Day?
Is unschooling about staying in bed late, spending lazy days in the forest, and baking cookies?  Or is there more to unschooling than that? What does a typical unschooling day look like? Will it be different in different families? Will it change over time? Whatever it ...

Unschoolers, Chores and Rosters

Unschoolers, <strong>Chores</strong> and Rosters
How do parents encourage kids to help with the chores? Is the example of parents important? Do parents have to be willing to do everything they want their kids to do? Do they need to have a generous and loving attitude? And what about chore ...

Should We Push Kids to Use Their Talents, Aim High and Impress?

Should We Push Kids to Use Their Talents, Aim High and Impress?
Do you ever wonder if you should push your kids? Make them do hard things even if they complain. Drill them. Give them a rigorous education. I’ve heard of kids who, after receiving that kind of education, are now surgeons and lawyers or have some ...

Unschool Basics: What is Unschooling?

Unschool Basics: What is Unschooling?
AI’s Definition of Unschooling I’m curious: can AI give an adequate definition of unschooling? I decide to find out. I type the following words into an AI assistant: write a definition of unschooling, and AI responds instantly: Unschooling is a unique and alternative approach to ...

The Stories of Our Lives

The Stories of Our Lives
Yesterday morning, I accidentally clicked onto a phone Bible app and found myself reading the words, Guided Prayer. It felt rude to refuse the invitation laid out before me, so I continued: I started to pray. A few minutes into the prayer session, I was ...

Do Unschoolers Drift Aimlessly Through Each Day?

Do Unschoolers Drift Aimlessly Through Each Day?
Years ago, when I was researching homeschooling methods, I thought unschooling sounded good because we’d be free to do whatever we liked. And if we didn’t want to do anything, that would be okay. There would be no rules, no control, no expectations, no pressure ...

Be Brave and The Unschool Challenge

<em>Be Brave</em> and <strong>The Unschool Challenge</strong>
Sometimes we have to be brave, don’t we? We might need to ignore people’s opinions and possible criticism and do whatever fulfils the needs of our kids. We could need courage to ignore our fears about how our work will be received and go out ...

Learning from Experience and by Reading Crime Novels

Learning from Experience and by Reading Crime Novels
Recently, I've immersed myself in Australian crime fiction. I've read novels by Chris Hammer, Jane Harper, Patricia Wolf and S.R. White. I like the ones by Jane Harper the most, but they've all held my attention because of their settings. Detectives solve crimes in places ...

Clock Watching, Short Lessons and Curious Questions

Clock Watching, Short Lessons and Curious Questions
This morning, after a long break, I dusted off my mic, sat down and made a new podcast episode! I enjoyed doing this, but I don’t know if I’m back permanently. Can I afford to keep podcasting? Can I afford to keep blogging? (I recently ...

The Important People in Our Lives

The Important People in Our Lives
About a week or so ago, I received a beautifully encouraging message from one of my friends in our unschooling community who’d listened to my podcast, The Problem with Being Too Nice. You might remember that I made that episode in March last year, at ...

It’s Not for Me

It’s Not for Me
What if we share our work with the world and then someone comes along and criticises it? Some people might write bad reviews that make our hearts sink. We could wonder what we’ve done wrong. Why doesn’t everyone like what we’ve created? Wouldn’t it be ...

The Problem with High Expectations and Control

The Problem with High Expectations and Control
Expecting a lot of our kids sounds reasonable, doesn’t it? If we have high expectations, perhaps our children will strive to achieve more. And if we keep raising the goal posts, won’t they end up doing amazing things? They could have fabulous secure futures that ...

Criticism, Reviews, and Paying It Forward

Criticism, Reviews, and Paying It Forward
Sometimes I’m not very sensible: I try to do too much. I want to blog and vlog and podcast and write books and host a community and occasionally sign in to Instagram. But I really don’t have time to do all that. So I wonder ...

Social Media, Hooks, Distractions, and Books

Social Media, Hooks, Distractions, and Books
My daughter Imogen and I aren’t big social media people. For some reason, we find platforms such as Instagram and Facebook a bit overwhelming. Could that have something to do with our introverted natures? Often, we disappear. But, after a while, we try again. Maybe ...

Trying Not to Complain

Trying Not to Complain
Hour after hour, day after day,  heavy rain dropped upon us. At first, we delighted in this extraordinary event. We searched for our long lost umbrellas. We remembered how to drive in the wet conditions. We took pleasure in the puddles and the grass that ...

Big Ideas and Big Passions

Big Ideas and Big Passions
I say to my daughter Imogen, “I’d better post the details of our last podcast on my blog.” And she replies, “You haven’t done that yet? How will we become podcasting stars if you don’t let anyone know we’ve published a new episode?” Podcasting stars? ...

Bad Haircuts and Unschooling Adventures

Bad Haircuts and Unschooling Adventures
In this week’s solo podcast episode, I’m sharing a few stories, and talking about how we can be more adventurous. It’s good to be adventurous, isn’t it? Adventures are fun. They connect us together as a family. They open us to new experiences. I’ve noticed ...

Writing, Explosions, and Unsuitable Horror Stories

Writing, Explosions, and Unsuitable Horror Stories
After a 4-month break, my daughter Imogen and I are back. We made a new podcast episode! This week, we're chatting about: Finishing novels and beta reading My 19-year-old daughter Sophie and 'graduate' unschoolers Bushfires and exploding trees How our generous members saved our unschooling ...

Unschool, Martian, and Risqué Stories

Unschool, Martian, and Risqué Stories
A few days ago, we all got very excited when a box of Frost Hands landed on our doorstep. My daughter Imogen opened it, eager to see the print version of her latest novel for the first time. Would it look good? We all agree ...

Unschooling, Plot Holes, and Twonk

Unschooling, Plot Holes, and Twonk
Yesterday, something unexpected happened: I recorded a new podcast episode! It had been a long time since I last headed into my closet, set up my mic, and started talking. Yes, I’d been neglecting my podcast. But why? A few weeks ago, I wrote a ...

Strewing , Unschooling, and Charlotte Mason

Strewing , Unschooling, and Charlotte Mason
In this week’s podcast, episode 178, I'm sharing and discussing two stories about strewing: Time For Some Strewing Unschooling When Charlotte Mason Also Appeals to Our Hearts I'm also talking about overwhelming times, how we don't have to be perfect, and looking for the delights ...

Encouraging Unschooling Kids and Mothers

Encouraging Unschooling Kids and Mothers
In this week's podcast, I'm talking about encouragement. I have two encouragement stories to share with you which I'm hoping you haven't heard before. But if you are familiar with them, will you think, "Sue is getting repetitive"? Will you consider giving my podcast a ...

How Curious Unschooled Kids Learn

How Curious Unschooled Kids Learn
The big question is this: will I be awake at 1 am tomorrow (AEST)? Will I join the first live session of my Homeschooling Global Summit interview? Earlier today, I received a Summit email that included these words: If you are available for any of ...

More About Starting Unschooling

More About Starting Unschooling
Yesterday, I was brave. When I tell you what I did, maybe many of you will think, “Is that all Sue did?” You might not be impressed. However, I did something that was difficult for me. I hosted my first Zoom meeting! Two or three weeks ...

When in Doubt, Just Love

When in Doubt, Just Love
Last Wednesday, I pushed our living room sofa out of position, exposing a stretch of plain duck-egg blue wall. I placed a chair and a small table where the sofa had been. On top of the table, I stacked six encyclopaedias. And on top of ...

Unschool Love Stories

Unschool Love Stories
About a month ago, I wrote the following story for my unschooling community: This morning, I didn’t want to go for a run. It was cold, I was tired, and I had no one to run with. Running seemed too difficult. Each morning for the ...

Discussing Books and Writing Stories

Discussing Books and Writing Stories
Not so long ago, I posted the following words, about the current pandemic and control, in the Stories of an Unschooling Family community: One of the things that I’m finding hard to deal with at the moment is the lack of control I have over ...

The Problem With Being Too Nice

The Problem With Being Too Nice
Are you too nice? I am. I want to help everyone. Support and encouragement are my middle names. Send me an email and I’ll spend hours answering it. Write me a comment and I’ll always reply. Ask for some mentoring and I’ll do my best ...

Punctuation and Grammar and Other Unschool Writing Stories

Punctuation and Grammar and Other Unschool Writing Stories
Many people think kids need to be pushed. If we don’t tell them what to do, they won’t do much at all. But, of course, this isn’t true. Kids are curious people. They are wired to learn. If we don’t keep them busy fulfilling our ...

Unschooling Sausages and Other History Stories

Unschooling Sausages and Other History Stories
Acouple of days ago, I posted the following words on Instagram: Friends, I need some feedback! We’re almost at the end of February and I haven’t made a single podcast so far this year. (Did you notice?!) Why haven’t I sat down in front of ...

Encouraging Each Other

Encouraging Each Other
Sue Elvis is a mother of 8 with stacks of stories to tell. She generously shares her Stories of an Unschooling Family on her blog, YouTube channel, podcast, Instagram and most recently in her books, Curious Unschoolers and Radical Unschool Love. And these stories are ...

Stories About Connection from Radical Unschool Love

Stories About Connection from Radical Unschool Love
In this week’s podcast, I’m sharing a few stories that can be found in my book, Radical Unschool Love: A Teenager’s Thoughts Learning Right from Wrong Developing a Sense of Right and Wrong Can We Be Both Parent and Friend? One-on-One Times In episode 165, ...

Discouraged

Discouraged
I’m feeling discouraged. I wonder: why am I doing this? Why am I blogging and podcasting? I know the answer: I want to spread the word about unschooling. I want to pass on what I’ve learnt. Tell others about the joys of living this way ...

Time and Trust and Letting Go

Time and Trust and Letting Go
If Darth Vader somehow got into your podcast, would you still publish it? If you tuned into a podcast episode and heard some noisy breathing, would you continue listening? Why am I asking these strange questions? Well, the latest episode of my podcast isn’t perfect ...

Asking for Help

Asking for Help
Afew weeks ago, I was feeling rather stressed out so I took a break from podcasting. It's been good not having to produce a new episode each week. Podcasting is hard work! I must now be feeling more rested because a day or so ago, ...

Christian Unschooling: Disciplining With Unconditional Love

Christian Unschooling: Disciplining With Unconditional Love
If our children misbehave, what do we do? Make them sit on the time-out chair? Punish them? Perhaps we should withdraw our love. Be cold and distant. Make things unpleasant for our kids because they need to know how upset we are, don't they? We ...

Registered Homeschoolers Who Unschool, Confidence, and Other Thoughts

Registered Homeschoolers Who Unschool, Confidence, and Other Thoughts
I wonder if more people would unschool if there was no such thing as homeschool registration. Maybe having to fulfil registration requirements seems daunting. How can we give our kids the freedom to follow their interests when we have to answer to the education department? ...

Why I Concluded That Unschooling Doesn’t Work (When It Does)

Why I Concluded That Unschooling Doesn't Work (<strong>When It Does</strong>)
When we first started unschooling, I used to read John Holt’s magazine Growing Without Schooling. Every couple of months or so, a new copy would land in our mailbox. I'd make a cup of coffee and then settle down to devour each edition from cover ...

Shall We Talk About Christian Unschooling?

Shall We Talk About Christian Unschooling?
I often get to the point where I feel I haven't got anything more to say about unschooling. I wonder: is it time to move on? At the beginning of last year, I reached such a point. However, instead of thinking about moving away from ...

Unschooling When Charlotte Mason Also Appeals to Our Hearts

Unschooling When Charlotte Mason Also Appeals to Our Hearts
Do some aspects of the various methods of homeschooling appeal to you? How about living books? And art and nature study? What about the classics? Journaling and drawing? Years ago, I was drawn to Charlotte Mason’s ideas. There is something very attractive about her way ...

Turning Waiting Times into Unschooling Adventures

Turning Waiting Times into Unschooling Adventures
Do you spend a lot of time waiting? I used to. When my kids were younger, I had to wait while they had piano lessons, singing lessons, musicianship lessons and swimming lessons. I waited while they went to Brownies and St John Ambulance meetings. I ...

Old and New Stories, a Book Club and Other Unschooling Things

Old and New Stories, a Book Club and Other Unschooling Things
Maybe I should have been willing to let go of control of the unimportant things. There are times when I need to be a fun mum. A few weeks ago, I received a letter from Fr James Tierney who is the author of the Bush ...
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