My Unschooling Book Series (4)
I have doubts.
What gives me the right to write an unschooling book?
Because my family is a perfect example of unschooling? It’s obvious, isn’t it? You’ve seen the beautiful photos and heard all the amazing stories. Do as I do and you can’t go wrong.
But what if I haven’t told you the whole story? What would you think if I did (which I can’t)? And what about the future? What if my kids decide to do things that don’t fit in with your idea of a perfect unschooling family?
Would you say, “What gives her the right to write about unschooling? She hasn’t got it all worked out.”
And you’d be right. Things aren’t perfect. I haven’t got things all worked out. Why should I think I can write an unschooling book?
Or perhaps we’re unschooling okay. We’re not the problem. Maybe it’s unschooling which is all wrong. Why should I urge you to follow this way of life? Could I be leading you astray?
Regardless of the problems, I have come to the conclusion that we have no choice. We have to unschool because it’s the right thing to do. Everyone deserves to be loved unconditionally and treated with respect. We can’t control other people. Not even when we get scared and start to worry about what other people might think.
Other people. Perhaps a lot of our parenting has to do with us and not our kids. What do people think of us? Do they think that we are good parents? How do they decide? They look at our kids.
But kids have free will. They can choose to go their own way. And this is painful and (rather inconvenient) for parents.
Regardless of what our children do, we have to continue to love and accept them. Maybe their choices will turn out to be okay. It could be that we just need to adjust our thinking. Look at our kids differently. Put aside our own ideas of who they should be. Perhaps we’ll need to ignore other people’s opinions too.
Or if our children have truly gone down the wrong pathway, perhaps the power of love will draw them back.
Love and trust.
I believe all this. I have no doubt that unschooling is what we should be doing. But writing about it? Sharing my family in public? Encouraging others to unschool too? Today, I have my doubts.
Today, I feel like deleting my blog. I want to forget about the book.
Do you understand?
Image: I took this photo during the filming of the music video Wunderkind. The girls are fixing Imogen’s hair between takes. It kept escaping from the bobby pins!