Why This is the End of the Line for Me

This morning, I learnt something very important. It’s time to let my kids tell their own stories.

Earlier today, we live streamed on my daughter Imogen’s Facebook page. We had a topic ready for discussion. We’d prepared our questions ahead of time. All was good. Except it wasn’t. Oh yes, we had a great conversation. But while we were talking, I gradually became aware that my daughter and I had different ideas about how to approach this week’s topic. I told everyone that we were going to talk about ‘clothes’ while Imogen described the topic as ‘style’. I was coming from an unschooling point of view. Imogen wanted to talk as a young adult musician who is very passionate about what she’s doing.

After we’d finished live streaming, I said, “Imogen, you no longer need me. You’re confident. You know what you want to talk about… and it’s not unschooling. If I want to talk about issues in a way that interests unschoolers, I should live stream on my own Facebook page.”

I think Imogen needs to move past the label ‘unschooler’. She needs people to be interested in her because of her talents and not because she’s my daughter and we unschool. It’s time for Imogen to tell her own story.

“It’s the end of the line for me,” I said to Imogen. “I’ve also got to move on from unschooling.”

“But, Mum, you can continue blogging about unschooling. That’s your thing.”

“Not anymore,” I replied. “I’ve said all I need to. I’ve been writing your unschooling stories for a long time. But now you’re all ready to fly out there into the world and do things your own way.”

I know I have other younger daughters I could continue writing about, but it won’t be long before they are also in Imogen’s position.

Part of me feels very sad. But at the same time, part of me feels excited. My girls’ stories aren’t at an end. They’re just going to be told in a different way. And they’re going to be amazing.

But what about me? Like Imogen, I need to move past the label ‘unschooler’. Even though we’ll be unschoolers for life, we both need to do more than illustrate the unschooling philosophy. It’s time for me to find my own thing to do.

So my unschooling blogging days have come to an end. What will I do next? I have no idea. I ask myself, “What am I good at? What talents do I have? What could I share with other people?” The obvious answer appears: “I know about unschooling. I’m good at sharing the unschooling message.”

But there must be something else. I’m going to mull things over for a while. Be quiet. See what happens.

Regardless of what I do, Imogen will continue with her music. Sophie will film her videos. No doubt, I’ll still roll out of bed before dawn on film shoot days to help. And each week, Imogen and the girls will gather to chat about various issues from their points of view, not mine.

As I said, my children’s stories will continue even though I’ll no longer be here on my blog. Imogen is sharing hers on her Youtube channel and Facebook page. She also hopes to grow her website . So if you like Imogen’s music and would like to continue supporting her, please follow along with her. Perhaps you could join her for her live streams each week.

If you missed today’s live stream, here it is:


Imogen tells the story of the fur coat that she wore in her latest music video and how she was mistaken for a school student by a passer-by while we were on location. You’ll find out how Imogen and the other girls developed their own style of fashion and where they buy their clothes. Imogen talks about how our appearance reveals a lot about who we are, how girls’ clothes can be feminine as well as comfortable, and lots more.

And if you’d like to listen to Imogen singing The Rains of Castamere, here’s her latest music video:

Post image: I took this photo of Imogen after we’d filmed her music video, Something Just Like This. Maybe when I find out what I’m going to do next, I’ll also be flinging my arms in the air. The next stage of my creative life could be very exciting!

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    • Kathryn Coard
    • September 7, 2017
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    Sue, I will miss your Unschooling posts, butchers is a season for everything. I look forward to seeing what your new season will be xx

      • Kathryn Coard
      • September 7, 2017
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      Auto correct, it should but there is , I should have checked .

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        Kathryn,

        Thank you for your interest in my ‘new season’. I hope we can continue to share ideas and conversation when I move on to something else. (Auto correct can be very entertaining. And bossy. It often thinks it knows better than me and changes my words and meaning completely!)
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    • Luana
    • September 7, 2017
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    It makes me sad to read this post.. but I am also happy that your archive is so rich and beautiful and I love to read your old posts again.

    I am also excited to see what you will write about (well, I hope you will!), I have truly enjoyed all your blogs and posts and if it is time for you to move on – well, I wish you happy flying and a nice and comfy landing place!

    Thank you for this special place and everything you have shared here and have a blessed way into your new adventure! Luana

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      Luana,

      What a beautiful and encouraging comment. I will miss chatting with you here. Maybe you will follow me to my nice and comfy landing place and we will continue to share ideas and experiences.

      Your words make me feel excited about the next adventure even though I do feel sad about leaving my blog. I have enjoyed putting it together. Thank you so much for reading my posts and for supporting me as I’ve written them.

      I hope all is well with you and your family!
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    • Nancy Saffield
    • September 7, 2017
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    Bless you Sue. The Lord is leading you down a different path in life. Will miss your weekly blogs but so glad you are taking up a new adventure. Your friend Nancy

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      Nancy,

      I’ve been struggling with this decision for a long time. And praying about it which didn’t seem to help. Probably I was too busy to stop and listen carefully for the answer. I don’t really know where I’ll go next. No doubt, God has a plan. Ideas will appear with time. Thank you so much for your encouraging comment. God bless you too!
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    • Robert Wharram
    • September 8, 2017
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    I’ve been following and sharing your posts and podcasts for a few years and am really grateful for what you’ve shared. It’s been apparent that this time has been coming for you and it’s incredible to see what unschooling has meant to you and your family. You’ve given us a wealth of resources to inspire us and look back on even as you move forward. Thanks so much!

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      Robert,

      As you know, I’ve been putting off making this decision for quite a while. It’s so hard to let go. I have really enjoyed putting this blog together and recording my podcasts. Everyone has been very supportive. I shall miss sharing unschooling even though I know I have to move on. It’s been good!

      I feel very fortunate that we found our way to unschooling and I have been able to share our experiences. Yes, unschooling is an incredible way of life!

      Thank you so much for following along with my posts and podcasts. I appreciate you sharing them. And thank you for taking the time to write this very kind comment.
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    Sue, this is not shocking news as it has been niggling for a while now.
    I think you have felt like this for many months. I’m glad it has made its way to the surface where you can see it clearly. Thanks so much for providing a space for us to share and find community. Best wishes in your new adventures!
    xo Jazzy Jack
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      Jaq,

      You are right: This isn’t shocking news! I didn’t really want to face this decision because my blog is such a huge part of my life. It is hard to move on. Maybe it feels safer to stay here rather than try something new. But we’ve got to keep growing, haven’t we? And who knows what exciting adventures we’ll have if we’re brave enough to let go? (That sounds very unschooly!!) I hope we can stay in touch. I will miss you enormously if our paths diverge completely.

      Thank you for being my blogging friend. And thank you to Miles for his fabulous guest posts!
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    • Linda
    • September 9, 2017
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    Sue, best wishes for whatever lies in store for you! Thank you for your many years and innumerable words dedicated to spreading the unschooling message. You have helped me to get a clearer picture of what it can be. As a relatively new fan of yours, I still have lots of older podcasts and blog posts to look forward to gaining wisdom from. Thank you so very much!!

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      Linda,

      I’m so glad you are finding my podcasts and blog posts helpful. If you have any questions or want to comment on an old post from my archive, please feel welcome to stop by. I’d love to chat with you.

      Thank you so much for your kind comment. I appreciate it very much!
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    • Venisa
    • September 9, 2017
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    Wow, this is big but I am excited for you too!!! You’ve given me so much help and inspiration. Thank you so much for that! 🌷🌸Will you stay on instagram? Fingers crossed that you will!

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      Venisa,

      Yes, it is a big decision! I seem to have made a lot of changes recently. At the moment, I have no plans to leave Instagram. I have to have somewhere to connect with friends! Of course, we can still email each other.

      I’ve enjoyed sharing unschooling ideas and experiences with you. I hope we shall continue sharing even when I’m no longer blogging about unschooling. Thank you for your friendship!
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