This morning, I learnt something very important. It’s time to let my kids tell their own stories.
Earlier today, we live streamed on my daughter Imogen’s Facebook page. We had a topic ready for discussion. We’d prepared our questions ahead of time. All was good. Except it wasn’t. Oh yes, we had a great conversation. But while we were talking, I gradually became aware that my daughter and I had different ideas about how to approach this week’s topic. I told everyone that we were going to talk about ‘clothes’ while Imogen described the topic as ‘style’. I was coming from an unschooling point of view. Imogen wanted to talk as a young adult musician who is very passionate about what she’s doing.
After we’d finished live streaming, I said, “Imogen, you no longer need me. You’re confident. You know what you want to talk about… and it’s not unschooling. If I want to talk about issues in a way that interests unschoolers, I should live stream on my own Facebook page.”
I think Imogen needs to move past the label ‘unschooler’. She needs people to be interested in her because of her talents and not because she’s my daughter and we unschool. It’s time for Imogen to tell her own story.
“It’s the end of the line for me,” I said to Imogen. “I’ve also got to move on from unschooling.”
“But, Mum, you can continue blogging about unschooling. That’s your thing.”
“Not anymore,” I replied. “I’ve said all I need to. I’ve been writing your unschooling stories for a long time. But now you’re all ready to fly out there into the world and do things your own way.”
I know I have other younger daughters I could continue writing about, but it won’t be long before they are also in Imogen’s position.
Part of me feels very sad. But at the same time, part of me feels excited. My girls’ stories aren’t at an end. They’re just going to be told in a different way. And they’re going to be amazing.
But what about me? Like Imogen, I need to move past the label ‘unschooler’. Even though we’ll be unschoolers for life, we both need to do more than illustrate the unschooling philosophy. It’s time for me to find my own thing to do.
So my unschooling blogging days have come to an end. What will I do next? I have no idea. I ask myself, “What am I good at? What talents do I have? What could I share with other people?” The obvious answer appears: “I know about unschooling. I’m good at sharing the unschooling message.”
But there must be something else. I’m going to mull things over for a while. Be quiet. See what happens.
Regardless of what I do, Imogen will continue with her music. Sophie will film her videos. No doubt, I’ll still roll out of bed before dawn on film shoot days to help. And each week, Imogen and the girls will gather to chat about various issues from their points of view, not mine.
As I said, my children’s stories will continue even though I’ll no longer be here on my blog. Imogen is sharing hers on her Youtube channel and Facebook page. She also hopes to grow her website . So if you like Imogen’s music and would like to continue supporting her, please follow along with her. Perhaps you could join her for her live streams each week.
If you missed today’s live stream, here it is:
Imogen tells the story of the fur coat that she wore in her latest music video and how she was mistaken for a school student by a passer-by while we were on location. You’ll find out how Imogen and the other girls developed their own style of fashion and where they buy their clothes. Imogen talks about how our appearance reveals a lot about who we are, how girls’ clothes can be feminine as well as comfortable, and lots more.
And if you’d like to listen to Imogen singing The Rains of Castamere, here’s her latest music video: