Usually I speak and write about my four youngest daughters. But not today. For this week’s podcast, I share some boy stories.
I received a comment saying:
“I want to hear about when your boys were younger.”
So that’s what I’m talking about. I relate some of the interesting moments I’ve experienced with my sons Duncan and Callum over the years.
These are a few of the questions I explore…
- What if a son is ‘different’? Should we make our children conform and be like everyone else?
- Is it normal for boys to be energy packed, and what if mothers hate looking at injuries?
- Is it miraculous my son Callum made it to adulthood?
- What interests can we share with boys?
- What if brothers can’t get on with each other?
- What is it like to be a boy mum? How is it different to being a girl mum?
- Do boys like hugs?
- And what’s it like to look up at a son instead of down at him?
I hope you enjoy my ‘boy’ podcast!
Eight year old Callum: “I can’t live in the same room as Duncan any longer. He’s so annoying. I need a room of my own!”
I mentally survey the house. “The only free space is the bath. I don’t suppose you want to sleep in the bath?”
Boys and cars… Every boy needs to pursue a dream. Before very long, young men with dreams turn into men with families to support. That’s good. They all have to grow up. But for now…
I can no longer protect my son from the pain of the world. He’s grown up. He’s out there on his own. And my heart aches for him.
Fathers, sons, cars and LOVE. That’s not a dream. It’s reality
It’s Quite OK to Be Different
Sometimes I wish all my children were ‘normal’, part of the crowd. Would it be easier to parent such children? Would they fit in better? Would I not have to worry about them? But then I look at them, especially Jack. And I realise it’s their differences that make them so special.
“What do you like best, my camshaft or this?”
“Definitely the camshaft,” I say. “Poetry in motion.” We both smile. I think Callum likes how I take the time to look and listen even though I haven’t much idea about things to do with cars. I’m always exclaiming over the beauty of some part or other. (Have you ever noticed the excellent design and engineering that goes into every single piece of a car?) It’s our bit of fun, but it’s not only fun. It’s serious too. We share a lot. Callum is always talking over his plans, his dreams and his ideas with me.
And Callum now realises if his mother can learn how to operate on a sheep then he can do anything.
Popular Posts, Sons and Smacking
“So what’s been going on in your life?” I asked. “But be careful. I’ll probably go home and write a blog post about our conversation.”
I could sigh as I think about my second son; my charming son who clomps through life with a smile; my ever-optimistic son who always hopes someone else will do his jobs for him, help him out with his washing, make him packed lunches…
I also learnt that all children are different. What interests one might not appeal to another. And this is quite OK. But more importantly, sometimes I think I know what’s best for my child to learn. I probably just want to provide as many opportunities as possible for that child. But sometimes children have better ideas of their own about what they’d like to do. I have learnt we don’t all have to learn the same things.
Multiplying Potatoes and Other Stories
A few days later we are still eating potatoes. I vaguely wonder if there is a never-ending supply. But I shrug my shoulders without thinking too much more about it and peel and cook and enjoy. Eventually, we eat so many potatoes I can’t help thinking about them. Why do we have so many potatoes when I can’t remember buying any? Are they multiplying as fast as we are eating them? I can’t work it out.
I sit across the table from my son, sipping my coffee and I think about being a parent. It is not easy being a mother. Why do we long so much to have children? Yes, bringing up children provides so much joy. But why are we prepared to endure all the pain and heartache that inevitably come along too?
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