Boy Stories

Usually I speak and write about my four youngest daughters. But not today.  For this week’s podcast, I share some boy stories. 

I received a comment saying:

“I want to hear about when your boys were younger.”

So that’s what I’m talking about. I relate some of the interesting moments I’ve experienced with my sons Duncan and Callum over the years. 


These are a few of the questions I explore…

  • What if a son is ‘different’? Should we make our children conform and be like everyone else?
  • Is it normal for boys to be energy packed, and what if mothers hate looking at injuries?
  • Is it miraculous my son Callum made it to adulthood?
  • What interests can we share with boys?
  • What if brothers can’t get on with each other?
  • What is it like to be a boy mum? How is it different to being a girl mum?
  • Do boys like hugs?
  • And what’s it like to look up at a son instead of down at him?

I hope you enjoy my ‘boy’ podcast!

Program Notes

Boy Stories

Eight year old Callum: “I can’t live in the same room as Duncan any longer. He’s so annoying. I need a room of my own!”

I mentally survey the house. “The only free space is the bath. I don’t suppose you want to sleep in the bath?”

Boys, Dream Cars, and the Right Words

Boys and cars… Every boy needs to pursue a dream. Before very long, young men with dreams turn into men with families to support. That’s good. They all have to grow up. But for now…


A Mother’s Hug

I can no longer protect my son from the pain of the world. He’s grown up. He’s out there on his own. And my heart aches for him.

Fathers, sons, cars and LOVE. That’s not a dream. It’s reality


It’s Quite OK to Be Different

Sometimes I wish all my children were ‘normal’, part of the crowd. Would it be easier to parent such children? Would they fit in better? Would I not have to worry about them? But then I look at them, especially Jack. And I realise it’s their differences that make them so special.


How I Removed an Engine from a Car

“What do you like best, my camshaft or this?”

“Definitely the camshaft,” I say. “Poetry in motion.” We both smile. I think Callum likes how I take the time to look and listen even though I haven’t much idea about things to do with cars. I’m always exclaiming over the beauty of some part or other. (Have you ever noticed the excellent design and engineering that goes into every single piece of a car?) It’s our bit of fun, but it’s not only fun. It’s serious too. We share a lot. Callum is always talking over his plans, his dreams and his ideas with me.

Engines, Muscles and Spending Time with Dad

Don’t you just love watching fathers and sons spending time together, sharing their skills and enjoying each other’s company? I do.

And Callum now realises if his mother can learn how to operate on a sheep then he can do anything.

Popular Posts, Sons and Smacking

“So what’s been going on in your life?” I asked. “But be careful. I’ll probably go home and write a blog post about our conversation.”

I could sigh as I think about my second son; my charming son who clomps through life with a smile; my ever-optimistic son who always hopes someone else will do his jobs for him, help him out with his washing, make him packed lunches…

I also learnt that all children are different. What interests one might not appeal to another. And this is quite OK. But more importantly, sometimes I think I know what’s best for my child to learn. I probably just want to provide as many opportunities as possible for that child. But sometimes children have better ideas of their own about what they’d like to do. I have learnt we don’t all have to learn the same things.

Multiplying Potatoes and Other Stories

A few days later we are still eating potatoes. I vaguely wonder if there is a never-ending supply. But I shrug my shoulders without thinking too much more about it and peel and cook and enjoy. Eventually, we eat so many potatoes I can’t help thinking about them. Why do we have so many potatoes when I can’t remember buying any? Are they multiplying as fast as we are eating them? I can’t work it out.

I sit across the table from my son, sipping my coffee and I think about being a parent. It is not easy being a mother. Why do we long so much to have children? Yes, bringing up children provides so much joy. But why are we prepared to endure all the pain and heartache that inevitably come along too?


The Angels of Abbey Creek

 

If you’d like to listen to more of my podcasts you can find them on iTunes and Podbean.

You can find my videos on Youtube.

My children’s book, The Angels of Abbey Creek is on Amazon, as well as other places.


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    • Fliq
    • February 19, 2015
    Reply

    Hi Mum! I just listened to your podcast, and read through ALL of your related blog posts! I guess I must be missing you all! I'm glad I've got two little big brothers. I miss them often. Even though it wasn't always easy being the only big sister, it was good growing up with them.

    I don't think it matters how often you post podcasts, Mum. I always enjoy listening in and finding out a bit more about you and all our family, but I understand if inspiration grows thin or you need a break from the constant posting and recording cycle that take over your weeks!

    I love you! Felicity xxx

    1. Reply

      Felicity,

      It's strange to think of you all the way across the country listening to my podcasts about our family! I never imagined you would enjoy them so much. I guess there are family stories you haven't heard before, or haven't thought about for a while. I am recording a family history while making the podcasts!

      It does take quite some time to record, edit and publish a podcast, as well as write the associated blog post. I don't mind doing it if people are interested in listening each week. I just wonder though whether people have a hard time keeping up and would prefer a podcast less frequently. We shall see if I get any other feedback!

      It was great to see you on my blog. I love you too!

    • Chris
    • February 19, 2015
    Reply

    So happy you categorized the PCs by "sons." Great idea, my friend~!
    I'm loving loving loving the webcasts..thank you Sue.

    Hope all is well in your corner of theworld~~
    Love ya Sue

    1. Reply

      Chris,

      I think I'll go back through my posts and add a 'boy' label to them, for other 'boy mums'. I didn't realise some readers want to hear about my experiences with my sons.

      Thank you so much for your enthusiasm and kind words. You really are so good at spreading joy wherever you go.

      Love you too!

  1. Reply

    I love the individuality of each child. I listen to your words about your boys thinking "my son was so completely different!" I know a lot of parents have trouble with boys being overly active, rough and "boyish". Our boy has always been so well behaved, mature, dependable and well mannered. The only problem we had in his younger days was his extreme shyness, which just wore off. Now that 3 girls have followed after him we see the different natures of each one (and I can definitely say that the girls have been more challenging!)
    As far as the frequency of podcasts – I don't get to listen to every single one but I'm always glad when I get the time to. Perhaps the question would be, how often do YOU want to? I imagine each one takes quite a lot of planning and preparation. Do what suits you best 🙂
    Hope you're having a fruitful Lent thus far, God bless.

    1. Reply

      Kelly,

      Isn't it funny how children can be so different in different families? Our girls have always been so calm and quiet unlike our boys. The boys were definitely more challenging!

      I should have said, that despite their boisterous nature, both my boys were well mannered and 'good' boys. They weren't defiant. I just had trouble keeping up with them sometimes. But boys grow and they calm down and no one would ever suspect I used to chase after them, trying to keep up!

      I suspect from your own blog posts, you enjoy a wonderfully close relationship with your son, sharing similar interests and learning from each other. Boys, whatever their personality, are wonderful, aren't they?

      I hope you're having a very blessed Lent too. God bless you!

    2. Reply

      Kelly,

      I don't think I explained things very well. On the one hand I said Duncan wouldn't do what I wanted him to do. On the other, I said he was a good boy and not defiant. How could he have been both? I don't think Duncan deliberately made my life difficult. He just couldn't sit still and conform like all the other children. He was wired up differently. It's just the way he is. Yes, he is still different in many ways, but these days he has learnt skills so he can interact in a manner that society expects. Sometimes when kids don't do as we wish, it's more than naughtiness. It can be hard for them to be like everyone else. Anyway, I am sorry to be confusing. It's hard to have a discussion when my words don't make much sense!

  2. Reply

    Thank you for sharing your stories. I particularly enjoyed hearing about your relationship sith your grown sons. I thoroughly enjoy each stage of my boys and I look forward to seeing them become men. I feel so blessed with my 3 sons and would love many more!
    My oldest is a quiet and softer boy and my middle is a little more unpredictable but also mostly quiet. My toddler is quieter as well, though he is more physically active than his brothers. I have a friend who has two loud and rambunctious boys. It is great to watch them all interact and my friend and I regularly swap stories that remind us that there is no right way for a boy to be. The Child Whisperer by Carol Tuttle has been a great tool for us to appreciate their differences more.
    At this point, I'm just glad my boys don't bring slimy things and creepy crawlies into the house. Dirt, trucks and tractors, video games and tree climbing are so much easier to handle. And head injuries….. my oldest knows how to make my heart skip a beat!

    As for podcasts, I dont always get to listen right away but I do try to catch up regularly. If you want to post weekly then feel free but if you feel that biweekly fits your life better then I'll still listen.

    1. Reply

      Tessa,

      Thank you for sharing your sons with me. You are so right: Boys can be very different from each other. My sons Duncan and Callum are like chalk and cheese, both in personality and appearance. However, I think both caused my heart to skip a beat when they were children! I don't remember slimy things.

      I haven't seen The Child Whisperer. I shall take a look!

      Thank you for the podcast feedback. I read that podcasts should be scheduled regularly. Maybe not quite as relaxed as blogging. Maybe I'll plan a podcast for every two weeks. I'll see how that fits in!

      I appreciate your comment very much.

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