10 January 2018

Is It Time to Unschool?

A new year. What’s ahead? More of the same? Or are you going to try a few new things in 2018? How about unschooling? If you’ve been sitting on the fence, thinking about it but not actually committing to this way of life, perhaps it’s the perfect time to let go and do it.

Jumping into unschooling might feel scary. Are you really prepared for what feels like a huge step? Perhaps you should read one more book or blog? Ask a few more questions? Think about it for a bit longer?

There is only so much reading, thinking and discussing we can do. Yes, we can learn a lot by sharing other people’s experiences. But this isn’t enough. If we really want to understand what unschooling is all about, we have to actually start unschooling.

But what if things don’t go smoothly? Maybe your kids won’t be as eager to learn as you hope. Or they might want to spend their time doing things you don’t value. Perhaps you’ll get impatient. You might not want to be accepting. Those close family connections I’m always talking about? You might wonder where they are. Will you end up saying, “This isn’t how I imagined unschooling!”?

Life won’t instantly become perfect just because you decide to unschool. (Life will never be perfect!) It takes time to let go of old thoughts and put new ones into action. Yes, you might hit a few problems. Just don’t give up. Instead, keep trying. Keep learning. Remember what’s important and why you wanted to unschool in the first place. Love and forgive and trust. If you go slowly and push through, you’ll get there. And it will be worth it.

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Do something important this year. Be brave. Let go and unschool. If you do, when December arrives, you might say, “Hey, this has been an amazing year!”

So how about it? Is it time to unschool?

I might not be wondering if it’s time for us to unschool, but I have been pondering another question: Should I continue to blog this year? (I know, I know! I return to this question frequently!) And if I do blog, what shall I write about? Ideas have been going round and round inside my head.

I did say in one of my podcasts that the only thing I know enough to write about is unschooling. But that’s not true. I also know a lot about Evernote. Should I start a blog where I can share my Evernote tips? Or should I return to the beginning of my blogging adventure and write some new Catholic family stories? How about exploring Catholic unschooling? I pondered this idea some months ago, but it never went anywhere.

Going in a new direction is risky. What if I lose my audience who’d prefer more of the same? But I know I can’t stand still out of fear. (It’s a bit like being too afraid to begin unschooling.) If I’m to continue learning and sharing in a useful way, I have to be prepared to try new things.

Maybe you’re also making plans for the year ahead. If so, do you have any big goals? What are you going to try? What would you like to achieve in 2018?

Sue Elvis

I'm an Australian blogger, podcaster, and Youtuber. I write and speak about unschooling, parenting and family life. I'm also the author of the unschooling books 'Curious Unschoolers', 'Radical Unschool Love' and ‘The Unschool Challenge’. You'll find them on Amazon!

20 Comments

  1. I certainly HOPE you continue to blog 🙂 I’m asking myself the same question, and my blog is not nearly as full of important and compelling information as yours. On another token, we have finally taken the plunge into unschooling. So far it’s tough to get my daughter off her duff and out of the screen. We’ve been watching some educational documentaries that we’ve both found SO interesting, and we’re opening our eyes to learning opportunities all around us! It’s true, that you can only read so much. Diving in is truly the thing that one should do. I’m quite confident it’s going to go well once I figure out how to properly chart our progress 🙂 Thank you so much for sharing your journey!

    • Hi Stacy!

      I hope you had a wonderful Christmas with your family. It might seem a long time ago, but we are still in a holiday mood. We haven’t yet taken down our Christmas tree. We’ve been talking about it, but no one wants to do it!

      I am very excited to hear you have dived into unschooling. I’m looking forward to hearing more about your adventures. Yes, there are so many learning opportunities around us. We just need to open our eyes!

      Thank you for encouraging me to continue blogging. You must keep blogging too. Your blog is also very important. I know you are a freelance writer, but you need your own place to share your ideas and thoughts in your own way, one that doesn’t have to follow someone else’s guidelines. I’m not sure what I shall be blogging about this year, but I do want to keep writing. I hope you will continue to blog too. Maybe you can write some posts about your unschooling experiences. I would love to follow along.

      Charting your unschooling progress? Have you thought about using Evernote? It’s a good way to capture all our wonderful unschooling learning experiences!

      • First of all, I passed by our own Christmas tree that’s still up and thought, “I bet I’m the only human alive that hasn’t taken down their tree yet 🙂 So glad to hear I’m not alone, lol!

        And we had a lovely Christmas, thank you! I’ve been watching Imogen’s videos and you all have such a lovely holiday atmosphere in your home. I don’t decorate much, aside from the tree.

        Yes, I have thought about blogging out some of our unschool adventures. It’s definitely going to be humorous in places 🙂 I think I’ll do just that! I have some other things in mind too. What I really need to do is come up with some kind of plan for regular writing. I have all the best of intentions, and they all manage to get buried!

        I have tried Evernote, but haven’t really dived in so to speak. I probably need to play around with it a bit to get comfortable with the way it works. I bet they have tutorials on YouTube, don’t you think? I’m going to look!

        Thank you, and I look forward to reading your upcoming posts!

        • Stacey,

          I need a plan for writing too. Just think of what we could achieve if we get organised!

          Yes, there are lots of videos about Evernote on Youtube. I have made some of my own directed at unschoolers. Evernote is very easy to use. It’s not as complicated as it looks. I’m happy to share what I know if you decide to use it.

          I’m so glad we could connect here today!

          • Me too, Sue! Hearing from you always boosts my spirits! So you’ve done Evernote videos?? I’m DEFINITELY going to check those out! Thanks for letting me know!

            And yes…we’d really be something with some organized momentum, lol!

            • Stacey,

              I LOVE Evernote! I’ve written a lot of posts and made quite a few videos about it. I think it’s a perfect system for showcasing unschooling. My videos aren’t very professional. (Maybe I should update some of them.) But I hope you find something useful in them. Here’s a link to my Evernote posts:

              https://www.storiesofanunschoolingfamily.com/tag/evernote/

              After chatting with you, I’m feeling excited about blogging again. Thank you!

              • I’m so glad! And I will definitely check these out, if not tonight, then tomorrow for sure. For the record, I never look for professionalism in YouTube videos as much as I do realism 🙂 And I know I can always find that in your videos!

  2. I was so excited to see a blog post in my inbox this morning. I know I have not commented on here before. I just soak in the inspiration and get back to my children. I would love to read more of your thoughts and experiences. As a catholic unschooler, I often feel isolated among many school-at-home catholic homeschoolers and am always looking for a kindred spirit. I hope to see more!

    • Anonymous,

      I’m so glad you stopped by. Thank you for taking the time to leave some very encouraging and kind words for me. Your comment put a smile on my face! Oh yes, we all need kindred spirits, especially when we have chosen to go along a different pathway from most other people.

      I’d love to talk about Catholic unschooling with you. I shall think about that idea a bit more and see where it leads.

      Please feel welcome to stop and chat again another day!

  3. My Nathan will be 19 in February and I wonder how many more years should we Unschool, as he is on the Autism Spectrum? He loves it and I am in no hurry to give it up. Will he one day be able to take his GED? I think he could. But he has no self-confidence. Neglected by a school system that promised to help him because he was special ed. So glad unschooling is a real option for us. Please don’t stop blogging Sue you benefit so many people more than you can ever know.

    • Nancy,

      I love how you are going at Nathan’s pace giving him the time he needs without getting stressed out. Listening to our kids and not getting caught up with other people’s expectations is so important, isn’t it? I bet you’re savouring your days with your son, enjoying them while you can.

      Is the GED important to Nathan? Maybe getting it will give him a great sense of achievement? Or does the thought of doing it make him feel stressed? I’d love to hear more about Nathan’s dreams and what he hopes to do in the future.

      I hope you had a very special Christmas. Lovely to chat with you!

  4. It’s kind of funny that you asked because the thought of taking a GED stresses him out. So I don’t talk about it. He’s convinced that there’s no way he would be able to get into a college because he doesn’t feel like he could do college-level material. He like to be a videogame designer. He also has a love for music. He draws very well. He’s very creative. And he has a dry wit about him which makes him fun to be around. He’s very easy-going. But because of his stuttering and the autism that he deals with he also feels uncomfortable and a lot of situations. Even as far as getting a job he doesn’t feel that he could get a job where he has to interact with other people. His feelings about himself can be pretty low even though my husband and I and his three siblings think he’s the best. And tell him regularly. We had a very nice Christmas. Thanks so much I hope yours was wonderful as well. Nancy

    • Nancy,

      Nathan sounds very creative. Could he complete an art or design course? Maybe he could study online. My daughter Charlotte is doing a Bachelor of Arts online, majoring in Digital Design. When she finishes, she wants to do a further practical course on animation. I think she’d love to do the art work for video games and animated movies.

      One of my sons is also not very comfortable in many social situations. Working has been an interesting (and sometimes difficult) experience. Some people don’t take the time to understand him and appreciate his gifts. But a few have got to know him and have helped him along the way. We also think our son is the best though we do have to boost his confidence at times.

      Have you seen the video ‘ Aspergers and Me’? It’s BBC TV presenter Chris Packham’s story. I don’t really know the difference between Aspergers and autism. Are they different degrees of the same thing? Anyway, in the video Chris does mention the word autism. He describes what it’s like to live with autism, the challenges he has had to face, the changes he has had to make in his behaviour in order to work with other people and achieve his dreams. He also explored the idea that instead of forcing people who are ‘different’ to change so that they fit into society, shouldn’t society accept and celebrate everyone’s differences. If we don’t do this, the world will be a poorer place. That’s a quick and inadequate summary. I’ll add a link to the video in case you haven’t seen it and would like to.

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c0mIFmRCaCs

    • Nancy, I hope you do not mind me just jumpingin here, so long after you had originally commented.
      Your comment just moved me so much and it made me feel so happy. I love finding others who are unschooling on the autism spectrum. I have two children on the spectrum myself. My oldest was once diagnosed as low-functioning. Severe is the word that was used. In our family, we do not use functioning labels to talk about human beings. We find it cruel.
      And what an adventure unschooling has been. What a gift to my children and myself.
      You see, I am on the spectrum myself and I remember school as some sort of terrible nightmare. Despite the fact that I was in a good school.
      There are so many nay sayers when it comes to unschooling and autism. And it just makes my heart sing to find more and more who embrace this way of life, love and trust.

      • Calla, your story is lovely and inspiring. Nathan is now 20 and we don’t officially unschool him anymore as he is trying to find his place in the world. We are trying to guide him as best as we can. He still struggles and even had to be hospitalized very briefly a short time back. He considers me his best friend as he feels most comfortable with me and even though is very much a loner, still needs to know where mommy is most of the time. This is not unusual for children on the spectrum that they often prefer one parent over another. I have friends whose children are also on the Spectrum and that is very much a part of their lives as well. Nathan of course still lives at home. And met for many years to come. He is in regular counseling and is receiving the help that he needs to deal with the social anxiety awkwardness that he has, the difficulty he has being around other people. We are hoping that in the months and years to come that he will feel good enough about himself to reach out from himself towards others. Thank you again Calla your kind comment. Blessings to you. Nancy

  5. I hope you will continue blogging too. I manage a blog that I also hope to get more posts on. However, if I can get a minimum of one a month on there, I feel like we are fairly active.

    I consider myself more of a relaxed homeschooler than an unschooled. Your blog posts are helpful and inspirational to me. I prefer a notebook where I write everything down at this point.

    • Gina,

      it’s lovely to hear from you! I remember you had a couple of blogs. One about homeschooling and the other about breastfeeding. Are you still posting on both blogs or do you have a new one? One post a month does keep a blog ticking along. And then if we can write more posts, then that’s a bonus. I hope you have a very successful year blogging. Perhaps you can share your blog address? I’d love to catch up with what you’ve been doing.

  6. Aspergers is actually what he has. No i haven’t seen this video Sue, but thank you for the link I’m going to watch it now. Nancy

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